FAQs
THE BIGGER PICTURE
We have never been about arranged marriages, only about arranged introductions. In today’s day and time it’s even more important that two people get to know each other enough, to at the very least be comfortable with each other. Not everyone who found their loved one through us has had a love marriage, but they certainly share that space where two people feel comfortable with each other. We strongly encourage our members to give each other the chance and time to be friends before talking about any next steps.
As we move away from our homes and our known social circles it becomes exceedingly tougher, especially with age, to expand our social network, making it even more difficult to meet that special person. There is also a certain emotional “investment” required when getting to know someone and that vetting process can be difficult and unsuccessful for a lot of people. That is where we come in. We connect people who are aligned on things that really matter in a lifelong partnership, giving them both a platform and access through the global reach that we enjoy. We also do a significant part of the vetting process by sharing only shortlisted profiles based on your key criteria.
Our members are well educated, successful and global in their thought process. And most of all they are realistic enough to be aware of the challenges that exist when it comes to finding their partner and smart enough to know that it doesn’t hurt to be introduced to other like-minded people, especially by a service like ours that has both the sensibilities that members can relate to and the outreach that they are looking for.
If this sounds like the kind of person you want to be with, get in touch with us.
We view marriage the way it’s meant to have always been - as an equal partnership. One where two people bring respect, love, friendship and integrity as the building blocks to cement a relationship. They decide to share their life because they are better together.
OUR MEMBERS & MEMBERSHIPS
Our members represent the crème de la crème of society and demand nothing but the best quality of service that money can buy. When entrusting us as a matrimonial search firm they know that we are anchored in our core values. The team experience and empathy we offer our clients through the process makes us truly proud of the service we deliver.
We count industrialists, celebrities, entrepreneurs, and successful corporate professionals across the world among our members. What truly binds them together is the fact that whilst each of our members are successful, well-travelled, progressive, cosmopolitan individuals, they are yet to find that one special person they want to share their life with.
On one hand love is such a raw and powerful emotion and on the other it brings with it so much softness, anchoring, emotional security and friendship. With the right person this partnership is truly magical. About 60% of our members across various age groups are looking to experience this “magic” for the first time. They have not experienced a marital relationship before and are looking for the commitment and sense of belonging that marriage brings. While someone is not incomplete without a partner, having someone special come into your life to make it even more beautiful is what they desire.
No-one gets into a marriage thinking it won’t be “forever”. However sometimes, despite one’s best efforts, things don’t work out the way we would like them to. When that does occur, it feels like one’s world will come crashing down, the security blanket that we once thought we had is gone. Some people have the courage to walk away from their marriage, and with time and healing look at restarting life. They are the “believers”. Believing in the beauty of love and the magic that comes with holding the hand of someone you love. About 30% of our members are “believers” across various age groups, looking to find love, stability and forever one more time.
For those over 55, life and its experiences has given them wisdom and taught both resilience and acceptance. They have the ability to bounce back from adversity and to keep their zest for life, laughter, sharing, dreaming and finding love at a later stage. For them, it’s about accepting that very little in life goes as planned and believing in the power of “possibilities”. About 10% of our members are over 55 and believe in “possibilities”.
These percentages do change over a period of time but they are currently in the ballpark range of :
Age: 70% of our members are between 24-40
30% are below 24 or over 40
Location: About 45% are located across the US
40% are in India and
15% are in Europe and the rest of Asia
Our members are looking for a partner who will be their confidante and soulmate – a rare combination that is unique and difficult to find. Our matchmaking process is as organic as possible with a strong focus on quality over quantity.
The memberships are classified into three categories - Base level, Mid level and Private Club.
The Circle:
This is our entry level membership
One Year @ Rs 3 lacs plus taxes or $4600
Two Years @ Rs 5 lacs plus taxes or $7600
- Our members within this tier are well educated with global exposure and are matched with other members within the same tier of membership as well as with Circle Plus, Element and Element Plus members.
- The membership comes with an optional one or two year validity.
- There is a 100 question questionnaire that needs to be completed by the member and not a family member. This is an introspective process which not only helps us get to know a member in-depth - their value systems, deal breakers and life experiences but equally importantly it organically reveals to our members aspects about themselves and their lives that are relevant to the search process.
- The process kickstarts with a 90 minute video call between the member and a senior person of the team.
- Members can reach out to their relationship manager with queries from time to time.
- In addition, there will be a call scheduled each quarter with the relationship manager so both the search to that point and the way forward can be discussed.
- We offer 10 profiles when a member opts for our 1 year search and 24 profiles over a 2 year search.*
*If the criteria or circumstances restrict the search for any reason be it geographical, divorced, with children, having health issues or any other special criteria it will directly impact the search and the deliverables will not hold true.
The Circle Plus:
This is our entry level membership for individuals 37 years of age or older
One Year @ Rs 3 lacs plus taxes or $4600
Two Years @ Rs 5 lacs plus taxes or $7600
- Our members within this tier are well educated with global exposure and are matched with other members within the same tier of membership as well as with Circle, Element and Element Plus members.
- The membership comes with an optional one or two year validity.
- There is a 100 question questionnaire that needs to be completed by the member and not a family member. This is an introspective process which not only helps us get to know a member in-depth - their value systems, deal breakers and life experiences but equally importantly it organically reveals to our members aspects about themselves and their lives that are relevant to the search process.
- The process kickstarts with a 90 minute video call between the member and a senior person of the team.
- Members can reach out to their relationship manager with queries from time to time.
- In addition, there will be a call scheduled each quarter with the relationship manager so both the search to that point and the way forward can be discussed.
- We offer 6 profiles when a member opts for our 1 year search and 12 profiles over a 2 year search.*
* If the criteria or circumstances restrict the search for any reason be it geographical, divorced, with children, having health issues or any other special criteria it will directly impact the search and the deliverables will not hold true.
The Arch:
This is our entry level membership for those in the 50 plus age group
Two Years @ Rs 2 lacs plus taxes or $3000
- This membership caters to the 50 plus age group that are looking for love and companionship. They may have moved beyond the online dating space and are looking for friendship and the excitement of new beginnings.
- Our members within this tier are well educated with global exposure.
- The process kickstarts with a 90 minute video call with the member.
- Following the completion of the questionnaire and the call, matchmaking is done by the matchmaking team and profiles are shared as and when there is a right fit.
- Members can reach out to their relationship manager with queries from time to time.
- In addition, there will be a call scheduled each quarter with the relationship manager so both the search to that point and the way forward can be discussed.
The Icon:
This is our mid level membership.
One Year @ 10 lacs plus taxes or $15000
Two Years @ 15 lacs plus taxes or $23000
- The membership has a one or two year validity.
- There is a 100 question questionnaire that needs to be completed by the member and not a family member. This is an introspective process which not only helps us get to know a member in-depth - their value systems, deal breakers and life experiences but equally importantly it organically reveals to our members aspects about themselves and their lives that are relevant to the search process.
- The membership begins with a video call with Anuradha and the member as well as one with the family which collectively lasts between 3-5 hours with a view to understand the member and get to know more about the family and the ecosystem.
- Following the call, the matchmaking is done by Anuradha’s team on a monthly basis with inputs from her as required.
- There is a quarterly catchup call with Anuradha to discuss the search and mutually agree on the way forward.
- Our members are well educated and accomplished individuals. They tend to belong to successful business families or are senior professionals.
- Members are matched with other members within the same tier as well as with those within our Circle, Circle Plus, Element and Element Plus tiers.
- This tier of membership includes a home visit by a senior member from Anuradha’s direct team to better understand the member and their lifestyle.
- A designated relationship manager is your point of contact to discuss profiles shared and feedback as the search progresses. This manager, trained and picked by Anuradha, is matched keeping the members personal criteria and style in mind. Anuradha actively follows each journey through her team.
- Since the search is so niche, committing to a specific number of profiles is very difficult. Keeping our diverse global quality centric database at the core of our search, we offer 6 profiles during a 1 year search or 18 profiles over a 2 year search.*
* If the criteria or circumstances restrict the search for any reason be it geographical, being above a certain age, divorced, with children, having health issues or any other special criteria it will directly impact the search and the deliverables will not hold true.
Year 2:
- The second year entails one more in person meeting between a senior member of Anuradha’s direct team and the member/family (depending on location). This is extremely valuable as sometimes there are changes in criteria or even a change in external circumstances as the search progresses and fine tuning becomes essential.
- We believe that successful relationships are built up on a solid foundation where two individuals feel loved and respected and yet it often starts with loving oneself. This holistic approach to relationships has led us to have our Wellness Panel of experts across the fields of Nutrition, Fitness, Life coaching, Therapy and Style. Over time, as Anuradha gets to know the member better she might recommend having a consultation session with the relevant wellness team expert and should the member want to go ahead, as part of this tier of membership we offer upto three complimentary consultation sessions.
The Private Club:
Our Private Club members are used to nothing but the best in life; with an extraordinary drive to carry forward their legacies, the world is their oyster yet they are deeply rooted in their culture and values. Whilst they have limitless options and access to almost anything that money can buy they are fiercely private and extremely selective about who they allow in.
We are one of those they do; and we have over the last decade earned that.
Our Founder is the matchmaker for our Private Club members who belong to well established business or industrialist families and brings a decade of matchmaking experience, a strong sense of intuitiveness and understanding of cultural nuances which are so integral to the fabric of the search which is as much an art as it is a skill. Over the years she has lived in Melbourne, London, Los Angeles, New York and now San Francisco but having been born and raised in India as well as her specialisation in psychology uniquely equips her in understanding people, their vulnerabilities and life journeys and brings a coveted east meets west perspective. She believes that the more you know someone the easier it is to connect them to other like-minded individuals. Anuradha currently splits her time between the US and India.
The special curated search that we build entirely around our members' criteria involves a mix of hand holding, often bridging the gap between generations, to one of marrying the traditional with the modern which resonates deeply with our members. Traditionally matchmaking has been about families, similar socio-economic backgrounds and cultures, we integrate all of that and weave that in by keeping at the heart of the search two individuals who share similar value systems, chemistry and dreams. As a result, our service is as bespoke and discreet as is nuanced and complex in its asking with no place for algorithms.
- Our process starts with video calls/ or a face to face meeting with the Executive Vice President (Memberships) to discuss what we bring to the table and if we have a mutual fit.
- Once a member, there is a video call/ face to face meeting (travel permitting) with Anuradha and at least a video call with the family which collectively lasts between 3-5 hours.
- Direct one to one interaction with Anuradha including a monthly catch up.
- Our panel of Wellness Experts is available to our Private Club members as required. Anuradha will recommend experts based on the unique needs of each member for the duration of their membership.
- Given the criteria and expectations of this tier of membership there are no defined number of profiles that are committed to. Thankfully our members whilst being extremely selective and specific are equally realistic!
- In the second year of membership we would offer a second meeting with Anuradha or the Executive Vice President (Memberships), based on your location, to discuss the progress of your search.
- We provide a dossier on potential matches.
- Only in this tier, do we approach families and individuals beyond our member base by leveraging off our preferred, highly coveted networks to further enhance the search if needed.
Do you have any memberships that focus on clients in Australia, the UK or Canada?
The Element:
This is our entry level membership only applicable for full time residents of the UK, Canada and Australia
@ GBP 1500 for 1 year or GBP 2500 for 2 years
@ CAD 2000 for 1 year and CAD 3000 for 2 years
@ USD 2000 for 1 year and USD 2500 for 2 years
- The membership comes with an optional one or two years validity.
- There is a 100 question questionnaire that needs to be completed by the member and not a family member. This is an introspective process which not only helps us get to know a member in depth - their value systems, deal breakers and life experiences but equally importantly it organically reveals to our members aspects about themselves and their lives that are relevant to the search process.
- It starts with a 90 minute video call with the member.
- Following the completion of the questionnaire and the call, the matchmaking is done by the matchmaking team and profiles are shared as and when there is a right fit.
- Our members within this tier are well educated with global exposure and are matched with other members within the same tier of membership as well as with Element Plus, Circle and Circle Plus members.
- Members can reach out to their relationship manager with queries from time to time.
- In addition there will be a call scheduled each quarter with the relationship manager so both the search to that point and the way forward can be discussed.
- We offer 10 profiles when a member opts for our 1 year worldwide search and 24 profiles over 2 years on a worldwide search.*
* If the criteria or circumstances restrict the search for any reason be it geographical, divorced, with children, having health issues or any other special criteria it will directly impact the search and the deliverables will not hold true.
The Element Plus:
This is our entry level membership for individuals 37 years of age or older who are full time residents of the UK, Canada and Australia
@ GBP 1500 for 1 year or GBP 2500 for 2 years
@ CAD 2000 for 1 year and CAD 3000 for 2 years
@ USD 2000 for 1 year and USD 2500 for 2 years
- The membership comes with an optional one or two years validity.
- There is a 100 question questionnaire that needs to be completed by the member and not a family member. This is an introspective process which not only helps us get to know a member in depth - their value systems, deal breakers and life experiences but equally importantly it organically reveals to our members aspects about themselves and their lives that are relevant to the search process.
- It starts with a 90 minute video call with the member.
- Following the completion of the questionnaire and the call, the matchmaking is done by the matchmaking team and profiles are shared as and when there is a right fit.
- Our members within this tier are well educated with global exposure and are matched with other members within the same tier of membership as well as with Element, Circle and Circle Plus members. The members in this tier of membership are 37 years of age or older.
- Members can reach out to their relationship manager with queries from time to time.
- In addition there will be a call scheduled each quarter with the relationship manager so both the search to that point and the way forward can be discussed.
- We offer 6 profiles when a member opts for our 1 year worldwide search and 12 profiles over 2 years on a worldwide search.*
* If the criteria or circumstances restrict the search for any reason be it geographical, divorced, with children, having health issues or any other special criteria it will directly impact the search and the deliverables will not hold true.
This depends on the tier of membership you are signed up for.
Our experience at Vows for Eternity has led us to believe that age and stage in life both play an important role in determining the pace of a search. The life experiences of those 37 years and older make them very confident about what they are looking for in a life partner as well as very sure of their dealbreakers, thereby making the search much more selective and specialized.
We feel a sense of accomplishment with our approx 35% success rate even though we are constantly working to better the graph. Through Covid, these numbers have certainly dipped but as things normalise, we hope that our numbers will be back on track as more people return to looking for strong partnerships and marriage as they journey through life.
Here is a table to guide you through our memberships:
| The Private Club | The Icon | The Circle | The Circle Plus | The Element | The Element Plus | The Arch | |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Membership level | Top tier | Mid level | Entry level | Entry level | Entry level | Entry level | Entry level |
| CEO Involvement | Extensive | Initial video call with Anuradha and quarterly catch up with her | Nil | Nil | Nil | Nil | Nil |
| Search conducted by | Anuradha | Matchmaking team, overlooked by Anuradha | Matchmaking team after a video call with a member of the team | Matchmaking team after a video call with a member of the team | Matchmaking team after a video call with a member of the team | Matchmaking team after a video call with a member of the team | Matchmaking team after a video call with a member of the team |
| Home visit | Home-visit by Anuradha (travel permitting) | Home visit by a senior member of Anuradha’s team | No home visit | No home visit | No home visit | No home visit | No home visit |
| Socio-economic background | High net-worth individuals and families | Affluence and privilege are the norm | Well educated with diverse backgrounds | Well educated with diverse backgrounds | Well educated with diverse backgrounds | Well educated with diverse backgrounds | Well educated with diverse backgrounds |
| Membership duration | 2 years | 1 or 2 years | 1 or 2 years | 1 or 2 years | 1 or 2 years | 1 or 2 years | 2 years |
| Price (excluding GST) | Available on request | 10 lacs or $15000 for 1 year and 15 lacs or $23000 for 2 years | 3 lacs or $4600 for 1 year and 5 lacs or $7600 for 2 years | 3 lacs or $4600 for 1 year and 5 lacs or $7600 for 2 years | GBP 1500 or CAD 2000 or USD 2000 for 1 year and GBP 2500 or CAD 3000 or USD 2500 for 2 years | GBP 1500 or CAD 2000 or USD 2000 for 1 year and GBP 2500 or CAD 3000 or USD 2500 for 2 years | 2 lacs or $3000 for 2 years |
| Member location | Anywhere in the world | Anywhere in the world | Anywhere in the world | Anywhere in the world | Only for residents living in the UK/Canada/Australia | Only for residents living in the UK/Canada/Australia | Anywhere in the world |
OUR PROCESS & MORE
- We offer a bespoke, confidential and global matchmaking service based on value systems and personality fits.
- We do not matchmake on the basis of caste and community.
- Our search is an offline one because we believe this space of our life is very personal and private.
- Our members consist of successful professionals, entrepreneurs, celebrities and industrialists - ranging from those totally self-made to those born into affluence and a life of privilege.
- We don’t work with biodatas because this is not a job application!
- We invest time in getting to know our members better; their childhood, family members and their life experiences. Over the years we have found this significantly helps in increasing the matchmaking success rates.
- Our focus is quality over quantity, with a strong eligibility criteria that needs to be met to qualify to become a member.
- It starts with you completing the “apply for membership” form.
- Someone from our team will contact you to better understand both - what you are looking for as well as to understand your background.
- If you qualify, and decide that you would like to become a member please let the team member you spoke to know. We will then email you a sign up link, which you use to complete the sign up formalities and set up your confidential profile.
- No matchmaking happens until we have either met with you personally or have had a video call (depending on the package) to better understand what you are looking for.
- Based on our conversations, closely matched profiles are shared with you. Once both people say yes, only then do we connect you to each other via email or phone, whichever works better for you.
- We place a very strong emphasis on feedback and really believe that you need to be very proactive in getting the most out of the search. We work with you to achieve your goal of finding a life partner, however the more feedback you share with us on the profiles sent, the more we can fine-tune the search and the better the results.
No, We are an offline, curated confidential search. Our website is the only thing that is online so that our members can communicate with us no matter where they are based. We share shortlisted profiles and no one person can see another’s details other than when shared by us as part of matchmaking.
The tangible component consists of things like education, accomplishments, income and family background to the more intangible components like mindsets.
We wish we could say yes. Unfortunately, the most important things in life don’t come with a guarantee. Sometimes things work and sometimes, despite best efforts they just don’t. What we can guarantee is that your search will be done with utmost confidentiality, care and personalisation.
No. As stated in our Terms and Conditions, VFE does not conduct criminal background checks on any of our members. There are a number of reasons for this including (but not limited to) incomplete or inaccurate criminal record databases. Background checks may provide subscribers with a false sense of security, and we do not want our members to have unrealistic expectations when using our services.
We strongly encourage our members to report any concerning behavior or information about their matches to contactus@vowsforeternity.com. We will investigate each and every report, and take any appropriate action that is necessary, including termination of a member’s subscription.
Please make sure to read the Terms and Conditions and the Privacy Policy before you sign up.
Our close knit team consists of strong, independent women between 30-65 years of age from cultured and privileged backgrounds based in various parts of the world. They have gone through their own share of experiences and are driven by wanting to make a difference, however small, in the life of someone else. At the heart of all your interaction we hope you will see the same things we do, in terms of relatability and a strong sense of integrity which each team member intrinsically carries with them.
You can read more about the team here: "our team"
Our member information is confidential and we do not share it with non-members.
No. The search is built up over a period of time with a lot of effort and time that is put in to get to know the person and connect them to other like minded people. There is no quick fix or turn around and hence the concept of trial is not relevant.
We wish we could share the love stories that have been born at VFE but given the highly confidential nature of our service, maintaining the privacy of our members is a big responsibility and something we take very seriously. Having said that a significant number of our members come to us through referrals which to us is validation of the positive experience people have with us in the majority of instances.
Since our members are spread all over the world, we do have members from diverse faiths and communities. Whilst we can work with the faith of your choice, despite slowing the search down considerably, we only cater to communities in our Private Club. Please be aware that we do not work with castes and sub-castes as that is not our typical client mindset.
Sharing profiles is what we commit to in our various memberships. Introductions are made only after both people say yes to a profile. The number of profiles committed to are therefore different from the amount of introductions made.
PAYMENTS & MORE
One can pay via cheque, bank transfer or online using a credit/debit card.
We do not offer any refunds.
Membership fees are non-refundable. Please make sure you understand how our service works and carefully read through our terms and conditions before you sign up.
The membership fee is payable in full at the onset.